Sex is better than guns

"Violence" and "sex" are often in the same bucket. Films are not appropriate for children if they have too much violence, but they are outright forbidden if they have steamy sex scenes.

It puzzles me how society came to put these two complete opposites within the same box. A gun kills, sex creates life. Weapons bring devastation and misery, sex brings joy and life.

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Are we good enough?

The other day, scrolling through inspirational/ cheesy/ outright frustrating phrases on social media, I encountered one that particularly stroke a chord. In pretty handwriting, written over textured papers, the words read as follows: “I need to change. I’m not me yet.”

This sentence says, quite clearly, one of the main messages of this day and age. Adds, social media, newspaper articles, celebrities with good intentions - they all keep telling us that we are not good enough. This idea that I am not me yet – I need to perfect myself towards my fantasy self – is a very profitable one, from a business point of view. We are promised we can achieve our fantasy selves if only:

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Buy to live, don't live to buy

I worked hard to save for a pair of shoes. Now, I finally have that pair of shoes. What for? Just to have that pair of shoes.

Brands give us the impression that, if we acquire a product, we get a step closer to our fantasy self, a perfect version of us. Therefore, we are often caught in buying things not for the thing itself, but for the feeling it gives us. A feeling that is often very fleeting.

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Adulting

"The practice of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult, especially the accomplishment of mundane but necessary tasks."

English Oxford Living Dictionaries

 

It is easy to get lost in the practical aspects of life. Organising our finances, doing the weekly shopping, making sure the home is tidy… all of that is important, and it can make our lives better. However, it is paramount to bear in mind that adulting is a means to an end, not an end in itself.

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Dealing with criticism

For some artistic minds, one of the big stumbling blocks is the fear of failure. We may want to do things differently, experiment and play, but big question marks pop up above our heads

What if I am ridiculed?

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